Ruining my plumbing fixtures

I have lived my entire life with hard water. Hard water is the most horrible thing in the total world. The water is taken from the ground, stored in our water tank & then pushed out of the tap. Before the water heads out of the faucets & plumbing fixtures, it should go through a water softener device. My husband Gary & I have tried all the water softeners around and on the market. Our hard water is so bad that is literally jams up the water softener. The filter with the softener would be able to catch the lime & calcium from going through our pipes. There is so much that the softeners do not do the job right. There is also an anode rod on the water oil furnace that catches the debris. The anode rod always gets ruined by our sediment. My husband Gary ends up taking out the rod, & getting rid of our hot water tank warranty in the process. Every one of us then have to use the icky water. My family can’t drink our tap water. We all have to boil the water anytime all of us cook or clean with it too. The most horrible thing is that the water ruins anything it comes in contact with. Our hair is slightly yellow & fuzzy. Our dentist always knows that all of us have taxing water because our teeth are gross. The water also corrodes pipes & ruins all our plumbing fixtures, then debris & scale build up happen in the shower all of the time.